Rebuild your Circle
the new way to start a family
I am no longer looking for comfort. I am looking for community.
Listen to the clip & Read - the messages always differ and connect.
Comfort asks for temporary easement or momentary satisfaction, but community creates a foundation to rebuild.
The Communi-Tea of the Week: We need a foundation of people to build with. Y’all know the quote about going far go together vs going alone.
The backbone of the community has always been dynamic women, especially as I think about the women in my family. These are the people we need to be connecting with and learning from at this time. There is a deep feminine aspect of leadership that is being highlighted and needed for the healing of our immediate communities. If you’re like me, you are always wondering what it was like for them when they were this age and in similar seasons. There is a lot of wisdom that they have to share with us right now to help support us and move us forward. There she is again. Wisdom. She is whispering to us if we’d just listen.
As you begin to step into your new reality of being in community, building new relationships, and accepting new responsibilities & callings - prioritize building safe circles. You’ll need them. They will have space for you and your growth. That is how you know you have found one.
Deep learning.
Gaining deeper wisdom.
Standing in your new position and place of authority.
These all seem like very real topics for the shift that is happening in the world. As the collective experience keeps calling us forward to our callings and asking us to leave behind more patriarchal ways, there is deep healing that will be coming to the forefront of our lives. Again, you’ll need this community. It may even bring you to these safe circles.
The phrase I keep hearing that I’m not sure who coined is, “decolonize your mindset." It is soul sucking and quite confusing to continue to exist in ways that don’t align with the ways in which you have changed. Let them go. Choose a new reality at every point that you can (some things are just out of our control.)
Hyper independence will not save you. Coming back to the community will change you. Let it.
I find that the more I allow myself to be held by these new relationships I am building, I am experiencing a different version of myself. I like her. She is freer. She does not feel the need to mask herself as often (she’s still healing.) And she has learned a new language of communication with her soul. These relationships have signaled the lies that she once believed. And she has now been able to navigate the hurt, the self-sabotage, and self-abandonment that past experiences have created. Find your people and you’ll find a more healed version of yourself.
Oh - I’m gonna slide in inspirational resources in here before the end:
Reading….How We Show Up by Mia Birdsong
Reading….Rock My Soul by Bell Hooks
You don’t have to live with what you do not desire. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. It will be much clearer what those are in the coming days.
Honor that. And step forward. Go ahead and start your family. & Shine, baby shine.
*inserts sun emoji* LOL
How do you imagine a world you would want to exist in? How would you function as an individual person and how would you function in community with others?
These are the circles we are building. This is the foundation that we are weaving.
I’ll go first.
I remember my teacher talking about a borderless world and I can’t shake that. That is a world I’d like to exist in. A free worldly experience. So as I think about that in my immediate life, I think of removing boundaries from my heart, being able to receive by releasing control. As I rebuild my foundation, there is protection similar to lavender plants around a garden. But the boundaries that ward off all things are no longer a thing in this world I imagine. My heart and home are open to those who reciprocate this experience. As an individual, I’d see myself as the person in the community who just has stuff. Like what do you need - I’ve got it. A resource. Abundant. I would have so much to give because my cup would runneth over. For example, I’d grow food and herbs to share with everyone around me. I imagine big windows and greenery all around me, community dinners & game nights, book clubs, download sessions, and honest “what do you need” conversations invited to all moments of connection. We’d be there for each other. We’d do life together and we’d provide shelter for those who need it. Nourishment. That is how I imagine it in a spiritual and physical sense. Nourished resources. No one gets left behind. That is a big promise that would require real soul work and responsibility but in a dream world thats the type of community I’d have.
With Love,
Marasia Simone